@AdagioM
We own a mobile home together in a well established, very nice, and very well managed mobile home park. Our mobile home is estimated to be worth over $200,000 by Zillow, and even though I think this figure is ridiculous, we bought it five years ago and prices have gone into the stratosphere since the pandemic.
The title is recorded in such a way that we'd both have to agree to a sale or one of us could sue the other, the asset would be held by the court, then sold off with the proceeds being divided between us according to terms decided by the court, in a process that would take a year.
I have no interest in either option.
It's true that his behavior often amounts to what my indomitable late sister once described as a kind of metaphorical predation.
It's just he lacks the intellect that would be required to overcome my instinct for survival and ability to defend myself. He has never been able to beat me in a fight.
The best example of this dynamic is he put my name on the title conjoined with "or." Maybe a year later he just announced that he wanted me to leave meaning move out. I asked him if I could stay. He said yes. He did the same thing a few months later. I ignored him. He did it a third time and I took his name off the title. He, his mother, and his sister panicked. I told him I'd add his name to the title conjoined with "and" and that he would pay the fees involved. That is exactly what happened.
He can do whatever he wants but I will remain adamant about not giving up what I have achieved after the instability and humiliation of being "just a renter" as they used to derisively say in Hawaii, especially given the astronomical cost of rent in this state.
We don't own the land so we.have to pay a pretty much nominal monthly rent. A 2 bedroom apartment would rent for twice the price.
He was the love of my life but became extremely narcissistic, arrogant, and entitled after loosing his last job in Hawaii and then spending the night screaming and crying.
He was still loving then but over a period of weeks he withdrew into his thoughts and feelings to a pathological degree.
The worst part of it is he's much too intelligent to not know that these drugs are weakening his body and shortening his life.