Some progress has been made. I made contact with my oldest sister just before Easter (ran into my brother-in-law in a convenience store near where they live). Sister and grandchildren came to Easter dinner with my brother-in-law. I told them I'd like to get in touch with my nephew (their son) to see if he and/or his wife would be willing to be Executor/Trustee/Attorney-in-Fact in some combination. So I'll be contacting him next week.
Last Tuesday I met with a place in WRJ, Vt. that offers Guardian, Executor, Administrator, Agent, Trustee, Consultant services. It was an interesting half-hour get-to-know-how-they-work interview (free) and I came home with their fee schedule. Apart from reservations about continuity (what happens if they place goes bankrupt after they've received a chunk of my money?), I feel comfortable that they would carry out my wishes as desired.
They have a flat reservation fee (for future services) of $1200. When the time comes that they need to act on my behalf, their hourly rate for $275 for the above mentioned services, and $150/hr or $175/hr for admin work.
If that's all there was to it, I'd be very inclined to sign with them. However, as of this year (2026) they will be billing an annual maintenance fee of $1000. If I knew I only had 10 years left (I hope not... I mean, I hope there's more!) I'd seriously consider it. But 20 years? 30 years? That adds up to a big chunk of change, for doing what every year? Being prepared? (On the other hand, the firm managing my retirement account gets paid more than that, albeit, they are growing, hopefully, my account.) Also, it's asking strangers to manage my personal affairs, so I expect to pay reasonably for that. I just don't know if it's too much?
So next step is talking with my nephew. Maybe they'll be happy to manage it all. If not, then maybe power-of-attorney. The responsibilities may get split.
I got a letter from the lawyer I met with last October to set up the trust asking me if I was still interested. Heehee. Yeah, it's already been 6 months! I told them yes and that I should have concrete plans reasonably soon.
Hate all this stuff.
Oh, the other thing I've been working on is a spreadsheet of all my possessions. It may become the basis for an auction after I've gone. Or before.