@andyd I'll take a good decade over a good one and a bad one. My medical power of attorney is complicated AF. I'm going to make sure it's know that I want DNR and no life support. I've had an interesting life. I have no plans to spend years suffering if there's no real point.
As far loss, lifelong friends, since I was 3, since I was in high school, since I was in college, have become estranged over the decades. There's one I'd like to find but have had any luck in years.
I have no family except a brother who is a narcissist from hell and had decided for the second time that we will be estranged since there's nothing I have that he can get from me. I have a cousin who doesn't understand me. I'll put that diplomatically.
I have an aunt in her '80 whom I think the world of, and she's invited me to Seattle, but in will be a year or more before I'll be moved, settled, healed, and in a new rhythm managing my new responsibities.
The grim reaper cut down almost my entire family without giving me much of a break. Such is life.
Well, we all know what our greatest poet said-- 'Better to have loved and lost than never have loved at all.'
Strangely, I want to be on my own. It's a new adventure.