Same experience with autobrakes as jon-nyc. I haven't found where to turn it off in my car yet. Related and very annoying is that if I'm backing out of a space on a busy street, my steering wheel vibrates, the dashboard lights flash and an alarm rings every damn time a car passes behind me. FFS, I know there's traffic there!
As far as spying, of course today's cars spy. They send speed info the insurance companies. I am led to believe that my car does not do that though, I was adamant with the salesperson.