Dementia is a cruel condition.
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My Mother in law.
I might have mentioned this but she went down the dark path of dementia and she was living with us in 2016 until the beginning of 2020.
She was at an assisted living facility until March of this year when they gave her a 30 day notice of eviction to their memory care facility which was $12k per month.
We prepared a room for her here at the house. New carpet, paint, new bedroom set including bed, recliner, dresser and nightstand. It was our "Master Bedroom for the past 28 years. We also renovated my daughters bedroom and moved into the acual "master beddrom". All of our daughters called it their room at one time or another over the 26 years that they lived here at home.
Taking care of a loved one with severe dementia is exhausting, physically and mentally. It was one of the hardest tasks I have ever participated in over the course of my 63 years on this rock.
Sarah, (Mrs Mark) did an incredible job once again taking over the role of primary caregiver. We had mom here for about 3 months and it seemed that we were living in a "Groundhog Day" movie scenario. That's what we called it anyway. Mom was stuck in a world that made no sense to her. She could never grasp the concept of her location, even in the house. She called Sarah, "mommy" heck, she called me "mommy" too.
We called the local ADRC office and made an appointment to have them visit and meet Maxine and us and to assess her current condition. Hospice was recommended as she was starting to decline pretty quickly.
She moved out on June 6 and into a wonderful memory care facility which was far more "affordable" at $7,500 per month.
She was there less than a month and died yesterday early evening.
Maxine was 80 years old.
Rest in peace, Mom.
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I'm so sorry to hear of your loss, @Mark . My most heartfelt condolences to you. Maxine was so lucky to have Sarah and you to care for her when she could no longer care for herself. It is exhausting in every way. What a remarkable gift to her.
You guys take care of yourselves.
